If you were thinking of inviting Marissa Anwar to your wedding, you might want to save the postage. She is not interested.
Nothing personal. It is just that the 29-year-old operations consultant from Waterloo, Ontario, is tapped out. Last year she attended six weddings — some of which actually had two ceremonies, because of different faiths involved — and was a bridesmaid three separate times.
It added up to spending $7,000 on everything from gifts to travel, from bridal showers to bachelorette parties. On top of the personal debt Anwar was trying to pay off, the mounting wedding costs made her feel like a hamster on a wheel.
And that was just as a guest. So she made the decision: no mas.
I wish I had seen this twenty years ago. I am now at an age when the wedding invites have become, mercifully, few and far between.
Being a guy all I usually had to do was rent a dinner suit, and bear the indignity of being photographed wearing black tie in the middle of the day. That was bad enough. I can't even imagine the expense most women have to endure.
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Hah, good stuff, Ad Orientem. This is a common complaint in Taiwan, where cash is the most commonly given gift at weddings, even by non-relatives. I was there on a meager teacher's salary and after a number of invites I simply had to opt out. Though, to be fair, I "earned" it all back by getting married.
No money in our jackets and our jeans are torn/
your hands are cold but your lips are warm _ . /
TennPaGa wrote:
Those getting married could help the situation by not requiring such expense as the price of participating. My contribution:
First wedding: 40 guests. Ceremony was at the same place as the reception. No best man / bride's maids. No music. No cake shenanigans. Served a nice dinner. Many people told me it was the nicest wedding ceremony they ever attended.
My wedding was like that—38 people. But what's funny is that my wife and I initially eloped to save our families the expense and hassle of a wedding and they absolutely insisted that we needed to have a Real Wedding™. We thought it was real weird. Wound up a nice affair though.
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TennPaGa wrote:
Got divorced, so there goes MG's theory.
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