Some people seem to zip through life with a U-Haul in tow; others, such as myself, are destined to lumber about in a moving van. For many of us, staying on course entails a fair bit of strategy, the unfortunate consequence of having an unwieldly, highly atypical, nervous system. On the bright side, being a little bit idiosyncratic ensures that we're never boring.Smith1776 wrote: ↑Mon Jul 15, 2019 1:00 pm I understand the sentiment of the people wanting to poop on the idea of taking extra steps to maintain your mental/emotional health. Maybe this whole idea seems wishy washy. However, you probably are in a lucky position to have never been in dire straits in this regard -- some of us have not been so lucky.
I can only speak for myself, but I'm convinced that pairing up is vastly overrated. I can count on one hand the couples I've known who have the kind of relationship that would be even remotely tolerable to me. And they all tend to be people with a much greater capacity for flexibility, filtering, and adaptation than I. In short, they're all "U-Haul" people. And besides, being alone has a number of highly underrated advantages, not the least of which is the ability to control one's immediate environment to alleviate stress or (for the aspies among us) to process all the stuff that rattles around like pachinko balls in our heads. For those of us who need long expanses of solitude like a fish needs water, being alone is a very effective, even necessary, strategy for staying balanced.As someone else mentioned in the thread, finding a mrs. that doesn't drive me nuts has been especially challenging. At what point does one simply settle for someone that feels like less than a perfect match? I'm hoping no one on this forum has had to do that.
So, having identified yourself as someone who has had to take extra steps to maintain mental health, it seems strange to me that you would find yourself questioning whether you should "settle" for something less than ideal. if it's companionship you crave, how about a dog? I've heard it said, "You've never had a friend till you've had a dog," and it's true. If it's a warm body in bed that you need, you can't beat a cat. It's the hallmark of wisdom to know what you, as a unique individual, need and to create that for yourself regardless of what everybody else seems to think is important.