I tend to agree with you WiseOne, that something probably did occur, but most likely it involved drunkenness, mixed messages, the usual teenage fumbling, and a good dose of Saturday morning remorse. But that's a far cry from what's being alleged.
We live in a culture where much of communication consists of "signals," and nowhere is this more apparent than in the sexual realm. The obvious corollary, which every self-respecting woman knows, is that you don't play fast and loose with culturally resonant signals if you don't intend to invite the consequences. I found the following YouTube clip of an interview by Camille Paglia--the left-wing lesbian feminist professor of criticism (wouldn't that be a hoot of a job?), who, it seems to me, has a pretty level-headed view of the issue. And it's not complimentary of a good number of today's young women.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x-Zj-buRsvA
An entirely different video which I don't seem to be able to locate this morning included a clip from a young woman bloviating about the Kavanaugh hearings and insisting that she should be able to show up at a frat house party wearing a g-string or a short skirt without underwear, and that she should be able to get flat-on-her-ass drunk, and that none of that should have any bearing on how she is treated by men. This is really an astounding assertion that not only infantilizes women but that ignores the manipulative reality behind her mixed messages. This is one aspect of the problem that I think Paglia misses. When a woman shows up at a chaotic frat party drunk in sexually revealing garb, and then proceeds to behave in an overtly seductive manner (including, in many instances, going up to a guy's room), does anyone think to ask why she's doing that? Why would a woman choose to behave in a manner that sends unambiguously sexually-charged signals if she does not intend to invite sex? This is an easy question, because women have been doing it for ages. In the old days, we used to call it "playing hard to get," and although the game was much tamer then, the point then--as now--is power. Specifically the power to manipulate a man to the point where he's ready to burst a zipper and then toy with him. This is the unfortunate reality of most "date rape" situations.