Okay let me explain my mixed feelings a little more .
I do want to hear your opinions, however brash or accepting they are, because I have not yet formed my own opinions. I don't care how convincing you all are really. I just want to know what the attitudes are, partially because I want to know how people I care about will be viewed by others if they choose a gay lifestyle. I am trying to make sense of my own thoughts by talking to what I perceive as a group of pretty intelligent people who are interested in the world around them.
I personally have an aversion to homosexuality. I guess that qualifies me as homophobic. And yet I have a sister whom I love who is choosing a gay lifestyle. We are as a culture moving toward celebrating homosexuality. It's all over our media and seen as almost an elite club to me. I don't believe homosexuals should have equal rights to adoption as much as committed married heterosexual couples. Intolerant? Yes, and maybe I'm wrong. But as of right now that is my opinion.
Here's an article that goes over survey results of children raised by homosexuals:
In terms of adoption, I have met several couples who have adopted, and in more cases than not, those children have many issues. Many of their biological parents were unstable or on drugs. The parents are very admirable in their calling to raise and love these children. However I think these children will be best off if placed in the most stable environment possible .
Homosexual relationships IMO are not as stable. They do not last as long, many male relationships are open relationships, many lesbian relationships are full of drama. My mom is an ObGyn and she said that the lesbian couples she sees are just over the top with drama. I also knew a girl who told me that although she's bisexual and slightly more attracted to women than men, she refuses to date women anymore because she can't handle the drama. Her relationships are much better with men.
Now you might say, who cares? Well maybe it's just a curiosity thing for me. I wonder if my sister will be happy as a lesbian. She claims she's bisexual but hasn't tried dating any men. Why would she when lesbianism is so "cool" these days? But her first girlfriend had a lot of issues and tried to commit suicide several times. Her next girlfriend struggled with gender identity and has been going back and forth between identifying as a female vs a male.
I know another woman who married a woman and then left her because the relationship was so unstable. She identified herself as a lesbian and became friends almost exclusively with lesbians. When she started dating men again (she's married now), her friends were really angry at her and her boss even sexually harassed her.
You might say these are isolated cases, but I think they're still worth thinking about. My sister may not know if she might actually like being in a relationship with a man. I don't think she'd be able to attract a man honestly. She is beautiful, tall and thin, blond...a classic beauty like Grace Kelly, but she looks like a lesbian (short hair, dresses like a boy, gets mistaken for a boy sometimes, etc.). Shes also genius-level smart.
I can tell my dad is having a hard time accepting this but he loves her and doesn't want to alienate her. I really avoid talking about it with her. My father told me once he would be very upset if I became a lesbian, not because he would take offense, but because my life would be so much harder if I chose that route.
As far as the statistics on homosexual males, yes those stats are very old... But I read somewhere that even after all the HIV awareness, they have remained a much more promiscuous group.