What will you say when your children move away to pursue their career? Will you be happy if they don't move back to help you in your old age? Will you be happy if they do move back, knowing that they may have uprooted their own career and family to do so? \SomeDude wrote: ↑Fri Jun 25, 2021 8:36 amAs someone who had a baby girl last year and has a boy due in December......it is hard but well well worth it.
Your capacity for love will grow massively and they will bring joy into your life.
Depending on your income they are not that expensive. The tax deductions and credits at my income level for getting a wife and two kids is probably $20k or more.
Having a family to care for you when you're older is a big plus too.
And i go out drinking and philandering a LOT less.
I'm 39, no kids. I love kids, but apart from a very short time period before I got married, I've never felt any urge whatsoever to have children of my own. If I'd had kids, I suppose I would've enjoyed it, but I've also enjoyed aspects of not having children. It's just not something I feel the urge to do, so I won't upset the applecart. My wife feels the same way, and I know several other couples, usually younger than us, that feel the same way. In most cases, they're far more 'anti-kid' than I am. It's best to say that I'm neutral on children.
I've seen people deal with losses of children at early ages, or other significant medical issues. On the outside, they handled it as well as possible, but I shudder to think of what they went through on the inside. I know that for me, dealing with something like that with a child would be life-wrecking stuff. Absolutely devastating. Slightly less devastating would be an older child ruining their life with drugs or alcohol. Anyway, just my 2 cents worth. Kids have gone from being a requirement throughout most of human history, to something of a luxury.